{"id":85225,"date":"2024-03-06T08:41:03","date_gmt":"2024-03-06T14:41:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.stress.org\/?p=84287"},"modified":"2024-04-06T03:54:10","modified_gmt":"2024-04-06T03:54:10","slug":"why-my-father-never-spoke-about-his-heroism-during-wwii-2","status":"publish","type":"news","link":"https:\/\/www.stress.org\/news\/why-my-father-never-spoke-about-his-heroism-during-wwii-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Why My Father Never Spoke About His Heroism During WWII\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">By Nadia Rupniak, PhD<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.stress.org\/combat-stress-magazine-fall-2023\"><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\"><em>*This is an article from the Winter 2024 issue of Combat Stress<\/em><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\">\n<div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\">\n<div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\">\n<p><i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">A letter found after my father\u2019s death led me to discover his military decorations and the brutal retaliation inflicted on his family.<\/span><\/i><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">The transition from military service to civilian life presents many challenges for Servicemen and Servicewomen. They may have experienced combat trauma, the deaths of close friends, and political changes that seemingly negated their sacrifices. Recently, I discovered the terrible burden that my father, Captain Marcin Rupniak, took to his grave<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">At\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">my father\u2019s funeral<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">, I felt as if I\u2019d never really known him. Why had a man with his remarkable intellect settled for menial work in a factory that was far below his capabilities? Why had he not made more of his life? Whenever I asked him about it, his explanation left me none the wiser: \u201cBecause of the war, my girl.\u201d<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">I had no idea what he meant by that because he never spoke to me about the war. All I knew was that he had been a captain in the Polish army and could never return to Communist Poland because he would be arrested and shot. I didn\u2019t know that the Polish army had made heroic contributions to the allied liberation of Europe in 1944. Fighting alongside American, British, and Canadian troops, they played pivotal roles in the victories at Monte Cassino<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">1<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">\u00a0and Falaise.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">2<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">After the war, my dad corresponded regularly with his brother, Tomasz, in Poland, but the contents of their letters, written in Polish, were a mystery to me. When the Soviet Union collapsed in the 1990s, Tomasz\u2019s daughter, Helena, came to visit my dad. I couldn\u2019t speak a word of Polish, nor she English, and so our limited communications went through him. As a result, I learned almost nothing about her or the reason for her journey.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">It was not until both my parents had died that I discovered my dad\u2019s family were victims of a Soviet genocide. Such was my dad\u2019s secrecy about his family that my mother had written to Helena after her visit, requesting information. Among her personal papers, I found Helena\u2019s reply. It said that during the war, my grandmother (aged 68) and three uncles were arrested and deported to Siberia because my dad was an officer in the Polish army.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">I found Helena\u2019s letter truly shocking. All those years, my dad lived with the guilt that his mother and brothers had been targeted because of\u00a0<\/span><i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">him<\/span><\/i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">. This Soviet aggression explained why he could never set foot in Poland again. And my poor grandmother.\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">How much suffering had this elderly woman endured? No wonder he didn\u2019t want to talk about it.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">I arranged to visit Helena to learn what had happened to our family. In case she was no longer at the same address, I also searched for other Polish relatives on the internet. When I typed \u201cRupniak\u201d into the search engine, I was astonished to find a website listing my father as a recipient of the Virtuti Militari, the Polish equivalent of the Medal of Honor.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">3<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">\u00a0I was in complete disbelief. Surely, this had to be an error. How was it possible that he had earned such high military distinction and never said a word about it to me? I promptly requested a copy of his military records.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Some months later, a large manila envelope landed in my mailbox. Inside, a dossier contained dozens of pages that bore my dad\u2019s photograph, the words \u201cVirtuti Militari,\u201d and a war diary written in my dad\u2019s distinctive handwriting. There had been no mistake. My father, a humble factory worker, was indeed a Virtuti Militari.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-84148 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-scaled-1.jpg\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2492px) 100vw, 2492px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-24x24.jpg 24w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-48x48.jpg 48w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-200x205.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-292x300.jpg 292w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-400x411.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-500x514.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-600x616.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-700x719.jpg 700w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-768x789.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-800x822.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-1200x1233.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-1495x1536.jpg 1495w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_CaptainCombatJacket_Photo_FNL-scaled-1.jpg 2492w\" alt=\"\" width=\"2492\" height=\"2560\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">My friends assumed that I must feel incredibly proud, but that wasn\u2019t how I felt at all. My chance discovery had pitched me into mental turmoil. Why on earth didn\u2019t he tell me about this? Why had he deliberately kept me at such a distance, his own daughter? I was angry with him and ashamed of the lack of respect I\u2019d shown him. I began to question the reliability of\u00a0<\/span><i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">all<\/span><\/i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">\u00a0my relationships. If I had misjudged him so badly, how many other good people had I dismissed?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Researching his service records, I learned that\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">my dad was twice recommended for the Virtuti Militari during the invasion of Poland in 1939. He had shown great courage and leadership by firing on advancing German tanks from an exposed position, forcing them to retreat. During intense fighting, he had maintained command of antitank guns and took over communications when his telephone operator was killed. His cool head in the thick of battle won him the respect of his men and his superiors.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">I read that Stalin had waited until the Polish Army was exhausted from weeks of continuous fighting before joining Hitler\u2019s invasion.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">4<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0Unable to fight on two fronts, the Army received orders to evacuate. This march must have been agonizing for my dad, as he would have passed signposts to his hometown. The evacuation left Polish civilians, including his family, defenseless against the brutal German and Russian invaders.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">My dad and thousands of other Polish Soldiers later regrouped in Britain, where they joined the Allied liberation of Europe in 1944. Hundreds of thousands more of these Soldiers, unable to escape, were captured by the Soviets and tortured, executed, or deported to hard labor camps in Siberia. Twenty-two thousand Polish officers were executed on Stalin\u2019s orders, their bodies dumped in mass graves at Katyn.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">5<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0This massacre, rendering Poland incapable of launching a military uprising against its oppressors, was an act of genocide.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">While I was researching these events, I heard back from my cousin, Helena. Considering the obstacles in communication I\u2019d experienced with my dad; I was taken aback by her openness. She said that her father, Tomasz, loved his brother Marcin very much and had dearly wished to see him before he died, but travel was impossible during Communist rule. When Poland regained independence, she had visited my dad to fulfill Tomasz\u2019s last wishes. Her letter added, \u201c<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Marcin was very hurt by what happened to his mother, and he worried about it very much. Please don\u2019t be surprised that he didn\u2019t talk about it.\u201d<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">Soon after this, I traveled to Poland and met with my cousins. They told me that it was not only Polish soldiers who were arrested by the Soviets, but also the families of Polish Army officers and others that were deemed enemies. From elderly grandparents to newborn babies, 1.7 million Poles were rounded up and deported to Siberia, my grandmother and three uncles among them. Most disappeared without a trace.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Armed Soviet Soldiers had come in the dead of night to arrest my grandmother and her sons Ludwik, Micha\u0142, and J\u00f3zef. They were taken to the nearest railway station, where the men were separated and sent to hard labor camps. J\u00f3zef and Ludwik were sent to a timber logging camp near the Arctic Circle. While working in the forests felling trees, Ludwik was killed by a bear. The death toll from starvation, cold, and disease was so high, that J\u00f3zef knew he would also die unless he escaped. A locksmith by trade, the guards made use of him to repair locks at the perimeter gates. Twice, he broke out but was recaptured. Subjected to brutal beatings by the guards, he almost died. On his third attempt, he succeeded.\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Most of the women and children were deported to Kazakhstan, a journey lasting several weeks in crowded cattle cars with a hole in the floor for a toilet. Upon arrival, they were taken to remote settlements to work on collective farms. Everything they produced was surrendered to the Soviet administrators in exchange for starvation rations. Constantly bitten by parasites and living in crowded, unsanitary conditions, infectious diseases took many lives.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">6,7<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">When Hitler ordered an invasion of the Soviet Union, t<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">he Polish president, W\u0142adys\u0142aw Sikorski, worked with Prime Minister Winston Churchill to secure the release of the prisoners to form an army against Hitler. Stalin agreed, but only one tenth of the Poles were released and evacuated to safety in Iran, which was under British control. The evacuees were in appalling physical condition, emaciated by starvation, infested with parasites, and dying of typhus and other epidemics.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">8<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">\u00a0Miraculously, my grandmother and her sons, Micha\u0142 and J\u00f3zef, reached Iran, but soon after their arrival, she and Micha\u0142 died. J\u00f3zef, the only survivor, later served with distinction at Monte Cassino.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">The optics were not good for the West\u2019s newly forged alliance with Stalin and an alternative explanation was manufactured to explain the arrival of 170,000 Polish refugees in Iran. Newsreels in America and Britain portrayed the Poles as having escaped from\u00a0<\/span><i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Nazi<\/span><\/i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">\u00a0oppression.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">9,10\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">When the bodies of the murdered Polish officers were later discovered at Katyn, the crime was again reported in the West as a Nazi atrocity to preserve our alliance with Stalin.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">11<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-84149 size-full lazyload\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-scaled-1.jpg\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1757px) 100vw, 1757px\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-200x291.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-206x300.jpg 206w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-400x583.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-500x728.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-600x874.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-700x1020.jpg 700w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-768x1119.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-800x1166.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-1054x1536.jpg 1054w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-1200x1748.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-1406x2048.jpg 1406w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_MarcinRupniakCombatUniform_Photo_FNL-scaled-1.jpg 1757w\" alt=\"\" width=\"1757\" height=\"2560\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1757px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1757\/2560;\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">In Iran, the Poles were ordered by their British overseers not to divulge their treatment in the Soviet Union, blackmailed into silence to protect their families in occupied Poland and the prisoners still held in Siberia.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">12<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0The letters of Polish Servicemen were censored for content criticizing the Soviet Union and Soldiers were threatened with imprisonment if they spoke out.<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">\u00a0Polish leaders received repeated assurances from American and British politicians that in return for their army\u2019s loyal service, their country would be liberated.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">In 1944, Polish Soldiers fought alongside their allies in Europe under great psychological duress, not knowing the fate of their loved ones in Poland. Pursuing the fleeing German Army, the Poles constructed bridges across rivers and canals, naming them after Warsaw and other Polish cities. Each country they liberated brought them a step closer to home. In France, Belgium, and Holland they were mobbed by jubilant crowds celebrating freedom.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">When the Polish Army got as far as Germany, only a few hundred miles from the Polish border, they were given orders to halt. The war was over. During secret meetings, the political leaders of America and Britain had ceded half of Poland to the Soviet Union. The effect on the Polish troops was devastating. My dad\u2019s letters to Tomasz speak of betrayal and deceit, indicating that he felt \u201cutterly broken and destroyed.\u201d Some Polish officers committed suicide.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">The American and British public saw Stalin as friendly \u201cUncle Joe,\u201d who helped to rid Europe of Nazi tyranny. They were unaware of the need to liberate Poland from Soviet rule. Political leaders reneged on their promises to ensure free elections and Poland remained subjugated under a Communist dictatorship for five decades.\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">The deportation of whole families from Poland to Siberia continued and Tomasz\u2019s association with my dad put him in great personal danger. When a local official came to his house and noticed an airmail letter, Tomasz was arrested, beaten, and interrogated as a spy. He was lucky to have been spared deportation. This was why my dad wouldn\u2019t talk to me about the war. He couldn\u2019t risk any criticism or opposition of the Soviet Union, even from abroad, that might compromise his surviving family\u2019s safety.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">I can only imagine my dad\u2019s disillusionment. Despite tremendous sacrifice and heroism, he would never see his family again. Forced to live in exile abroad, Polish Veterans had to settle for whatever jobs they were offered. My dad\u2019s superior officer, General Stanis\u0142aw Maczek, one of the most distinguished commanders of the war, earned a living as a bartender in Scotland.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">I wish I had known about this while my dad was still alive. At least I could have supported him. Discovering what he endured fills me with admiration for his incredible resilience. Even though he\u2019s gone, I feel closer to him now than ever.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">If you would like to read more about my family\u2019s experiences during the war, please visit my website\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nadiarupniak.com\/\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">www.nadiarupniak.com<\/span><\/a>\u00a0<span data-contrast=\"auto\">and YouTube channel\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCEGGC43hyDPYQXJKuaBW46g\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCEGGC43hyDPYQXJKuaBW46g<\/span><\/a><span data-contrast=\"none\">.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">References<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Anders W. An Army in Exile. (2004). 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Classic Printing, Chicago, IL.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-contrast=\"none\">Polish refugees flee Poland and arrive in refugee camps in Iran (Persia) (1943)\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=49A2pImHJgQ\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=49A2pImHJgQ<\/span><\/a><span data-contrast=\"none\">.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-contrast=\"none\">HD Stock Footage WWII Polish Refugees in Iran Fight for Freedom 1943 Newsreel\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=OWTOVlqCO1o&amp;list=PLE7F068B835C375E8&amp;index=41&amp;app=desktop\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=OWTOVlqCO1o&amp;list=PLE7F068B835C375E8&amp;index=41&amp;app=desktop<\/span><\/a><span data-contrast=\"none\">.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Memos show U.S. helped cover up Soviet massacre\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/news\/memos-show-us-helped-cover-up-soviet-massacre\/\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">https:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/news\/memos-show-us-helped-cover-up-soviet-massacre\/<\/span><\/a><span data-contrast=\"none\">.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-contrast=\"none\">Prazmowska A. Britain and Poland 1939-1943: The Betrayed Ally. (1995). Cambridge University Press, Cambridge, UK.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"12\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Miko\u0142ajczyk S. The Rape of Poland.\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">(2007). Kessinger Publishing LLC, Whitefish, MT.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\">\n<div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\">\n<div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-2\">\n<h3 class=\"fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" data-fontsize=\"18\" data-lineheight=\"27px\">ABOUT THE AUTHOR<\/h3>\n<p><strong><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright wp-image-84150 size-thumbnail lazyload\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-150x150.jpg\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-24x24.jpg 24w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-48x48.jpg 48w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-66x66.jpg 66w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-96x96.jpg 96w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-200x199.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-400x398.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-500x498.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-600x598.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-700x697.jpg 700w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-768x765.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-800x797.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-1200x1195.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.stress.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Rupniak_BioPhoto_FNL-1536x1530.jpg 1536w\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 150px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 150\/150;\" \/><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\"><strong>Nadia Rupniak, PhD<\/strong>, is presently completing a ten-year investigation into her family history, prompted by a chance discovery about her father, a Polish World War II Veteran. With exclusive access to his military service records and personal correspondence, Nadia discovered how he became a stateless immigrant after the shameful political betrayal of his country by its allies.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;335559739&quot;:240}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Nadia is also an internationally recognized neuroscientist with a special interest in depression and anxiety disorders. She has published over 140<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0articles, has given podium presentations\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">at international conferences, and an article about her research was published in\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"auto\">the\u00a0<\/span><i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Wall Street Journal<\/span><\/i><span data-contrast=\"auto\">. Despite her credentials, she had no idea that her own life had been affected by her father\u2019s combat stress until she began researching his experiences during the war.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;335559739&quot;:240}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Nadia has BA and MA degrees from the University of Oxford, and a PhD from the University of London, UK. Her father was immensely proud of her admission to Oxford and displayed a photograph of her matriculation on his bedroom wall. She believes it represented the vicarious fulfillment of his own academic potential and aspiration to become a doctor before his life was upended by war.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;335559738&quot;:240,&quot;335559739&quot;:240}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\">\n<div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\">\n<div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-3\">\n<h3 class=\"fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" data-fontsize=\"18\" data-lineheight=\"27px\">Combat Stress Magazine<\/h3>\n<p><em>Combat Stress<\/em>\u00a0magazine is written with our military Service Members, Veterans, first responders, and their families in mind. 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