TABLE OF CONTENTS
CHAPTER 1: THE CIVITAN
RESILIENCE IDEAS: “I HAVE, I AM, I CAN”
What a Resilient
Child Ought to be Able to Say
CIVITAN LIST OF TRAITS (with additional items and alternate
wording)
WAYS TO SUPPORT THESE ABILITIES and help your child be better
able to cope
with stress
SUMMING UP
CHAPTER 2: SIX TYPES OF RESILIENCE
MORE ABOUT PHYSICAL RESILIENCE AND COPING WITH CHANGES
1. PHYSICAL RESILIENCE handling illness or accident
2. COPING WITH CHANGES such as moving, changing school grade
CHAPTER 3: THE REMAINING FOUR OF THE SIX RESILIENCE AREAS
3. PSYCHOLOGICAL RESILIENCE when coping with feelings of sadness or anger
4. ABILITY TO COPE WITH SCHOOL DISRUPTION
5. HANDLING THE LOSS OF IMPORTANT PEOPLE
6. SPIRITUAL, MORAL, OR ETHICAL ASPECTS OF RESILIENCE,
when
a religious leader of strong faith can help
CHAPTER 4: HELP ME COPE! A QUIZ FOR YOUTH
How People Recognize Stress and Do Something
About it
Hopes and Wishes You Have for Yourself and Your Family
Changes You Want in Your Family, Class, or Yourself
Hopes and Wishes You Have for
Yourself and Your Family
Changes You Want in Your Family, Class, or Yourself
Suggestions for Parents and Other Adults
CHAPTER 5: HOW FAMILIES OR SCHOOL CLASSES COPE WITH A CRISIS
Coping With Stresses and Crises
How Families Cope with a Crisis
CHAPTER 6: REDUCE STRESS--RECYCLE YOUR FAMILY!
POSITIVE CYCLES AND FAMILY STRENGTHS
VICIOUS CYCLES IN MORE DETAI; getting free of nagging,
blaming, arguing
CHAPTER 7: THREE HUNDRED
SEVENTY (370) STRENGTHS
YOUTHS’ ABILITIES AND COPING METHODS are important in coping
STRENGTHS AND STRESS; how to keep focus on strengths
when stress makes you forget your own abilities
FILLING
OUT THE LIST OF STRENGTHS
1. DISCLOSES FEELINGS AND PROBLEMS
HOW DISCLOSING HELPS, AND HOW TO SUPPORT IT
2. ACCEPTANCE OF SKILLFUL SUGGESTIONS, ADVICE, GUIDANCE
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
3. RESPONSIBILITY, COOPERATION
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
4. WARMTH, GENEROSITY, EMPATHY
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
5. ASSERTIVENESS, DRIVE, SELF-DEFENSE, SELF CONFIDENCE\
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
6. COPING WITH STRESS; OPTIMISM, SELF ESTEEM, HUMOR\
HOW THESE ABILITIES
HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
7. SELF CONTROL, MEDIATION AND COUNSELING SKILLS\
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
8. ABILITY, TALENT, SKILLS, INDEPENDENT LEARNING,
and CREATIVITY\
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
9. SCHOOL PERFORMANCE, JUDGMENT\
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND
HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
10. LEADERSHIP, ATHLETIC INTERESTS & ABILITY\
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM\
11. HEALTHY LIVING, ACCEPTANCE OF MEDICAL
TREATMENT OR PHYSICAL LIMITATIONS, RECOVERY FROM TRAUMA\
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP,
AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
12. SURVIVAL SKILLS, SAFETY, AND FIRST AID PRACTICES\
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
13. CONCERNS ABOUT: NATION, ENVIRONMENT, CONSERVING
RESOURCES, SOCIAL JUSTICE
HOW THESE ABILITIES HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
14. SPIRITUAL OR ETHICAL DEVELOPMENT
HOW THESE ABILITIES
HELP, AND HOW TO SUPPORT THEM
CHAPTER
8: ACUTE STRESS DISORDER AND POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER
WHY DISCUSS THESE SERIOUS CONDITIONS?
NOT EVERYONE REACTS THE SAME WAY TO TRAUMA
Why Do Some Kids Develop
PTSD After Bad Events…But Others Don’t?
COPING WITH THE AFTER-EFFECTS
OTHER IDEAS THAT MIGHT HELP IN A CRISIS OR AFTERWARDS
APPENDIX
WEB SITES, PAMPHLETS, BOOKS, INSTRUCTIONS,
where you can find
additional help for problems
and questions
EMERGENCY HELP
LIST OF BAD THINGS OR STRESSES, listing over 100 stress situations
